Extroversion and Introversion

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Nobody should guilt you into socializing.

As time marches on and society learns more about itself, it seems people are becoming more aware of the crucial differences between extroversion and introversion. This is a good thing; in the olden days, it was just sort of assumed that everyone wanted to be in the presence of everyone else 24/7, and anyone who said they didn’t was a weirdo. But nowadays, you can set clear social boundaries and, ideally, your friends and family will respect them.

Having extroverted friends as an introvert can be exhausting, but the best way to look at it is as a matter of charging batteries. Both introverts and extroverts have a set amount of social power they can expend, but while extroverts expend energy alone and recharge in a group, introverts expend energy in a group and recharge alone. If you, as an introvert, have had enough socializing for one day, you’re completely within your right to want to stop and go home.

On the other hand, if you’re an extrovert with an introvert friend, it’s perfectly fine to want to bring them out on the town with you, but when they say they’re done, you need to respect that. Do not try to guilt them, and do not ridicule them. If you try to force an introvert out past their limit, they’re just going to get mad at you, and again, speaking from experience. By that same token, if you’re an introvert and you have an extroverted friend trying to bring you out, remember that it is likely not coming from a place of malice, they just want to spend time with you.

It takes some doing and the setting of proper boundaries, but it’s more than possible for all of us to understand each other.